No, this post isn’t about finding a bucket of quarters hiding in your house. Some of you may have been wondering why I have seemingly fallen off the face of the earth from writing as much and reading my fellow bloggers articles. I’m currently going through a breakup with a girl I had been with for 6 years and lived with for 5. I took some time away from my addiction to blogging to reflect and be with friends and family.

Since I was 16 I’ve pretty much went from long term relationship to long term relationship. 2 years, 3 years and now 5~6 years. This will be my first time being single as an adult – post college. Two weeks ago I realized I needed to get out of our relationship but it was a long time coming I guess and kind of mutual. 5+ years is a pretty long time considering there’s been constant warning signs that we are not good for each other all along the way. Our relationship was held together by us being best friends, but maybe friends is how we always should have stayed. Luckily it’s been a very civil breakup and I’m starting to get over everything that has happened.

One Thing I keep wishing is that I was further along my financial goals. While I’d like to get away for a bit and take some time off to clear my head. I just don’t have the F-You funds available to do that at the moment.

In an odd unusual twist to most breakups, this will actually accelerate my savings rate slightly since she was still in college and I was the financial support.

I only wish the best and sincerely hope she reaches her school and career goals and finds lasting happiness someday.

Now that I’m out of college and feeling my age(28), and have focused life goals I didn’t have before, I now know what kind of woman I will be compatible with. Maybe I’ll find someone, someday, that has similar life goals and is more compatible to me. For now I plan to clear my mind, work on my house, write more music, work on my blog and many other hobbies.

Until the dust fully settles from her moving and the big life change, I may be a little quieter on the blogging front. I’ll still try to get some posts out but they will be less frequent for a little bit.

Don’t worry though, I’m sure I’ll fully resume my blogging addiction within the next month or so. In fact I believe it will be an important part of the healing process.

I also want to thank pretty much everyone in the personal finance blogging sphere. I’ve found everyone to be incredibly nice and helpful, not to mention motivating. I love that everyone has similar goals and only wants to help others achieve their goals. There’s no cut throat competition to take down other popular finance blogs. Unexpectedly, I’ve found meeting other bloggers to be the best part of getting into blogging.

*Sorry Mr 1500, this probably means canceling my trip to Colorado as I don’t really want to go alone and I’m sure you don’t want to spend a whole week with me :). Maybe next year.


13 comments on “Unexpected Change

  • Hang in there man! There are many of us who have gone thru similar… your 2 years, 3 years, 5-6 years resembles exactly me… interesting fact.

    Let things settle for sure and once you get realigned with your goals and focus we will see you back here!!

    Don’t get all that discouraged… the process or goal of having F-you Funds is just that, a process to live by… It is not an end all, be all, Goal of Goals… you are on the right track just keep the ship pointed in that general direction… momentum will start building..

    • Thanks Tim, It definitely will change a bit of how I plan to accomplish my goals. I might add a new career goal, now that I have more time.
      My goal with the F-You funds is to be able to drop to 3 or 4 day work weeks, which would be pretty nice right now. I do have great bosses and coworkers though at my little 9 person engineering house company that are sympathetic and understanding. Part of me think it’s a ploy to keep me from leaving for more money down the road lol, It’s a very tight knit family like company.
      I’m feeling optimistic at the moment about the future.

    • Thanks Will, I did push things along for years. Just trying to follow through with what I told myself last time we had issues. It’ll definitely be an unexpected, new direction in life.
      I’ll resume my geeky number crunching ways soon enough.

    • I know what the real deal is! You’ve just reading about all of my crazy projects and don’t want to be forced into servitude: “5am, rise and shine!!! First break at 11!”

      Really though, sorry to hear about the change. Even when it’s the right decision, stuff like that can be hard to get through.

      See you in 2016 then?
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  • Stay strong, my friend. You’ll come out stronger on the other side. For me, my divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me, at least with respect to my personal finances. In fact, it was what prompted me to consume all manner of personal finance and begin improving my financial literacy … which eventually led to my own blog, multiple books and securing my financial freedom.
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    • Yeah, I think we both know it’s best and I do have new ideas including finishing my walkout basement, moving down there and renting the upstairs of my house. There will be a lot of work to do before that will happen though.

  • Sorry to hear about the breakup. 7 years & he realized he didn’t know if he wanted to marry me. I’m definitely happy. I vote go to Colorado! Going on trips alone to see friends is fun! 🙂

    • I definitely view marriage differently. Sometimes I think people focus on marriage so hard they somewhat forget about the person they’re with. It’s definitely something I take very seriously though, I only want to get married once and after that, we better be able to work through any issues.
      I guess the issue I have with Colorado is I’d be driving alone for a total of like 4 days, I’d be alone in Colorado when I’m not seeing Mr 1500. Doesn’t really appeal to me, I may have a good friend that would be up for such a trip though, let the planning commence.

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