No, this post isn’t about finding a bucket of quarters hiding in your house. Some of you may have been wondering why I have seemingly fallen off the face of the earth from writing as much and reading my fellow bloggers articles. I’m currently going through a breakup with a girl I had been with for 6 years and lived with for 5. I took some time away from my addiction to blogging to reflect and be with friends and family.
Since I was 16 I’ve pretty much went from long term relationship to long term relationship. 2 years, 3 years and now 5~6 years. This will be my first time being single as an adult – post college. Two weeks ago I realized I needed to get out of our relationship but it was a long time coming I guess and kind of mutual. 5+ years is a pretty long time considering there’s been constant warning signs that we are not good for each other all along the way. Our relationship was held together by us being best friends, but maybe friends is how we always should have stayed. Luckily it’s been a very civil breakup and I’m starting to get over everything that has happened.
One Thing I keep wishing is that I was further along my financial goals. While I’d like to get away for a bit and take some time off to clear my head. I just don’t have the F-You funds available to do that at the moment.
In an odd unusual twist to most breakups, this will actually accelerate my savings rate slightly since she was still in college and I was the financial support.
I only wish the best and sincerely hope she reaches her school and career goals and finds lasting happiness someday.
Now that I’m out of college and feeling my age(28), and have focused life goals I didn’t have before, I now know what kind of woman I will be compatible with. Maybe I’ll find someone, someday, that has similar life goals and is more compatible to me. For now I plan to clear my mind, work on my house, write more music, work on my blog and many other hobbies.
Until the dust fully settles from her moving and the big life change, I may be a little quieter on the blogging front. I’ll still try to get some posts out but they will be less frequent for a little bit.
Don’t worry though, I’m sure I’ll fully resume my blogging addiction within the next month or so. In fact I believe it will be an important part of the healing process.
I also want to thank pretty much everyone in the personal finance blogging sphere. I’ve found everyone to be incredibly nice and helpful, not to mention motivating. I love that everyone has similar goals and only wants to help others achieve their goals. There’s no cut throat competition to take down other popular finance blogs. Unexpectedly, I’ve found meeting other bloggers to be the best part of getting into blogging.
*Sorry Mr 1500, this probably means canceling my trip to Colorado as I don’t really want to go alone and I’m sure you don’t want to spend a whole week with me :). Maybe next year.